Books Recommended by Esther Perel
Fighting for Your Marriage
A Deluxe Revised Edition of the Classic Best-seller for Enhancing Marriage and Preventing Divorce
Howard J. Markman
Source: "On its surface, it’s a book about marriage of course, but you just go one layer deeper and it’s a study of the underlying issues that shape the way that we relate." - Esther Perel
Sex at Dawn
How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
Christopher Ryan
Source: Esther Perel suggested this book as an answer to "What are some [resources] for couples who want to explore having a more “monogamish” relationship?"
Sync Your Relationship, Save Your Marriage
Four Steps to Getting Back on Track
Peter Fraenkel Ph.D.
Source: "You must take the time, read this timely book and find out how you can redeem your relationship from the time crunch." - Esther Perel
You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married)
Looking for Love in the Age of Divorce
Dana Adam Shapiro
Source: "I felt as if [the author] were eavesdropping in my office. A grand reportage of marriage and its discontents." - Esther Perel
How to Fix a Broken Heart
Guy Winch
Source: "Provides the validation, comfort, and hope anyone who is heartbroken desperately needs." - Esther Perel
The Return of Desire
A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion
Gina Ogden
Source: "Probes the intricacies of female sexuality with subtle depth and understanding." - Esther Perel
Liquid Life
Zygmunt Bauman
Source: "I came one way and I finished the book and left another way." - Esther Perel
Nonviolent Communication
A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Source: "I think that this book is a classic for anyone who is thinking relationships." - Esther Perel
Love Rules
How to Get the Relationship You Want
Joanna Coles
Source: "For those looking for a smart, no-bullshit, effective guide to finding love." - Esther Perel
Crime and Punishment
Fyodor Dostoyevsky
Source: "You can reread the Russians. They are timeless." - Esther Perel
Family Healing
Strategies for Hope and Understanding
Salvador Minuchin
Source: "It will change your whole way of understanding relationships." - Esther Perel
Man's Search for Meaning
Viktor E. Frankl
Source: "The book I’ve probably gifted the most is [this book], since I’m 16." - Esther Perel
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The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses, and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules
Pamela Haag
Source: "Timely and thought-provoking analysis of modern coupledom." - Esther Perel
The New Monogamy
Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity
Tammy Nelson PhD
Source: "As crisp and clear as it is hopeful and realistic." - Esther Perel
Taking Sexy Back
How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want
Alexandra H. Solomon
Source: "On my top list of recommended sexuality readings." - Esther Perel
Can Love Last?
The Fate of Romance over Time
Stephen A. Mitchell
Source: "Was part of the spine of my book 'Mating In Captivity.'" - Esther Perel
If This Is a Man and The Truce
Primo Levi
Source: "One of the most powerful books one ought to read." - Esther Perel
Rekindling Desire
Barry McCarthy
Source: "One of my go to books on sexuality, consider it yours." - Esther Perel
Breaking the Male Code
Unlocking the Power of Friendship
Robert Garfield
Source: "I recommend for many of you." - Esther Perel
The Art of Loving
Erich Fromm
Source: "I recently reread." - Esther Perel
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